'[It's] my engagement ring!': Brother-in-law tries to reclaim a family heirloom 2 years after his sibling proposes to his fiancé with Granny's ring because his baby mama feels entitled to pass on the family's treasures to her baby

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Nov 16, 2024 6:00 PM EST

The eldest brother relinquished his claim to Granny's heirloom ring years ago after claiming he'd 'never get married or have kids of his own.' However, once he knocked up the girl next door, apparently the ring was his to claim, even though baby bro had already proposed to his fiancé 24-months ago. 

Sorry buddy, you're a little late to the gem party. 

Family drama is exasperated by a few key factors: the holidays, babies, and inheritance squabbles. No matter how non-confrontational and amicable your family may seem, if any one of these pressures begets your family dynamic, you're likely in for a wild ride. This couple in our next story faced all three at the same time when the eldest brother, a 34-year-old who previously had no intention of leaving his bachelor life behind, suddenly was about to become a father. When his baby mama, Hannah, pressured him to reclaim a family heirloom, he threatened to pry his dear ol' Granny's ring right off of his future sister-in-law's finger.

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    AITA for not giving back my finances deceased grandmother's engagement ring?
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    Throwaway account. I 29 female am engaged to Jake 32, male. We have been engaged for 2 years. He has an older brother, Sam 38. When Jake and I got engaged Jake wanted me to have his grandmothers engagement ring.
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    Jake talked to Sam and Sam said since he doesn't plan to get married or have children that Jake should use the ring. I love that ring and love the sentimental meaning behind it.
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    Sam met a wonderful woman, Hannah, within the past year and they are expecting a child. Once they found out it would be a girl Hannah told Sam she wants him to get the ring back for their daughter.
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    Jake has already told Sam no. During Sunday dinner last weekend at my mother in laws house Hannah brought up the ring and how it should be given to their daughter since she would a great grandchild and I am not related by blod. It
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    became an intense discussion. Luckily my mother in law also agrees with my fiance and I. Hannah then asked if her daughter could have it in our will. I said no because it will either be given to our son or our future daughter. I told Hannah to
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    take up her problem with Sam since he's the one who let Jake have the ring to give to me. Hannah ended up leaving the house crying. AITA?
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    Mobile Following_198 NTA. That's your engagement ring. Sam had his chance at the ring, but he passed it to Jake. It became your engagement ring. Him trying to somehow retroactively claim the engagement ring because his 1 year relationship wants it is crazy. It's even crazier that she wants it for an unborn baby. If the ring is
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    valuable, this gives vibes that Hannah is money-grubbing. I know you say she is wonderful, but this is worrying behavior for a year old relationship. A baby is already on the way, and she's already looking for what she can take because "baby is related."
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    SunnySundiall yeah I normally try not to speculate but this is really weird behavior. if u need advice op- just stand ur ground and dont entertain the drama. when its brought up, repeat "the ring is mine. I am family, it is in the family"
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    Oddly-Appeased It does sound like some kid of ulterior motives going on here. I wonder why Hannah thinks it would be okay for Sam to ask for the ring back after two years. I mean if OP's engagement ended that would be a reason to return the ring but only to Jake, not to Sam or Hannah.
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    lamIrene Definitely NTA, wow! The cajones on your bil and his gf! You may not be "blod related" but neither is your sil, lol! Jake asked for the ring and Sam agreed...no take-see back'sees! It is yours and should go to your children...period. I think maybe Hannah isn't used to be told "no", lol.
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    RockerStubbs Right? Why does Hannah think her unconceived children are 'family' while OP's are not? Hannah is ped she didn't get that ring and won't let it go...
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    obtusewisdom Hannah looks at the ring as a status symbol in your family. Like, whomever has the ring is the better/more important daughter-in-law or grandchild/great-grandchild. It's silly. Expect plenty of attempted oneupmanship from her with the kids. And ffs, don't give up your ring!
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    Louis V25 You just don't get to take rings off of people's fingers. You just cannot. She missed out and will have to be apart of another tradition.
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    EmilyAnne1170 NTA. Why does Hannah think she gets to have an opinion about what happens to her boyfriends' brother's fiancé's ring (or her boyfriend's grandmother's ring)? No one should even be discussing it with her. Just- no.
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